I Seem to Always Turn Men On, No Matter What I Do, Even When I Get Mad

It could be. Many people have trouble projecting a definite emotion. A study was conducted at the University of Utah in Salt Lake City to try to discover how often this confusion of sent and received messages takes place.

Several men and women were asked to act out six different moods in front of a television camera. The moods were anger, fear, seductiveness, indifference, happiness and sadness. Then the tapes were played back for each person, and each was asked if he were sure this was how he meant to portray each mood. In other words, each person checked his own performance to make sure it was emotionally authentic.

Then the videotapes were shown to larger audiences who were asked to identify each emotion. This, the investigaters hoped, would tell them how accurately each
man and woman signaled emotion in body language.

To their surprise, they found that most people were only able to project two out of six moods accurately, and those two varied from person to person. One young lady could only project one mood, anger, and every emotion she tried to act out was interpreted as anger. Another— and this will be of interest to you—could only send seductiveness. Even when she wanted to be angry, men whistled at her.

The Utah researchers concluded that everyone sends out some misinformation on a body language level. In most cases there is a big gap between our expressions and our emotions. We say we want someone to like us, but unconsciously we send out contradictory messages with our body, our face, and our tone of voice. Our body Iangauge says “I don’t like you.”

Since our unconscious body language communication is often more honest than our words, we may really be saying two things at the same time—acceptance and rejection.

Why? Well, we would have to be able to take a long, careful look at your inner motivation before we could answer. You send out a seductive message with your
body and then deny it verbally, but perhaps the true message you want to send is the seductive one. You must look into yourself, and your motivations, a bit more carefully.