She Doesn't Realize That I'm Interested in Her Sexually

Your way of looking at her is the chief body language signal here. Glancing at her body and letting her see the glance is considered, by both men and women, a provocative and seductive act.

In body contact, you must go beyond mere touching and let your touch become a caress.

According to questionnaire studies among college students, some of the body language gestures that spell out desire are wetting the lips, passing the tip of the tongue over the lips, and—oddly enough—in married people, playing with the wedding ring. This seems strange because the same gesture, used when a man and woman are talking
to each other on nonintimate terms, says ‘Tm married and safe!” But, as with any body language gesture, the total context of the situation is what counts. If you are a married man and your intention of seducing the woman is getting across, the wedding ring gesture sort of spells it all out.

The most obvious signal for wanting further sexual relations is the deep kind of kissing that leads to sexual intimacy. But this presumes that you have built up all the steps in between.

As an interesting sidelight on what kissing can signal, in England during World War II the English girls and the American GIs ran into a body language impasse. The girls considered the Americans too fast while the GIs thought the English girls were too fast.

Some careful research on the part of an army psychologist uncovered the fact that in England, at that time, it was considered customary for a girl to go to bed with a man shortly after he had kissed her. It usually took a long time before that first kiss was given.

Americans, on the other hand, were used to kissing at the start of a friendship, and then expected a long time before getting the girl into bed. The English girls, the Americans thought, were fast because it was kiss and into the sack. The girls thought the soldiers fast because they wanted to kiss right away—and by English standards, this meant going to bed right away, too!