The Attract and Seduce 4 Step System

So, here it is: The Four-Step System of Attraction and Seduction.

It doesn’t matter what kind of relationship you’re looking for – this system will work. I’ve had students who’ve participated in wild sexual adventures, others who’ve made millions, and a few who’ve found the woman of their dreams and settled down. All using the same set of principles. It’s a system that will take you from starting a conversation to closing the deal.

The principles that govern this system are universal, which means you can apply them to all kinds of seductions. Whether you’re meeting a woman in a bar or on an online date, the system will work. You just need to get a grip on the principles – they are universal, and won’t change. It’s the techniques that will differ from situation to situation. Anyone learning this art should experiment with different types of venues and platforms for dating. The more experimentation you do and the more feedback you get, the better you’ll get. That said, let’s get started.

Prepare Yourself for Dating

Seduction is a journey of self-discovery. To share yourself, you have to know yourself. Most people underestimate their potential; they decide not to take risks or put time into something that could really change their lives because they fear the insecurities they’ll have to face on the journey. Some guys are scared of success: what if this all works out and they end up with someone who’s out of their league?

To prepare yourself, sit down and reflect on what you’re true motivations are for reading this book, what you are looking for, and what exactly you hope to get out of it. The best place to start is by looking at what you’re missing. Simply think about or write the answers to the following questions down.

 Why are you learning the art of attraction and seduction?
 Are you looking for love? Sex? Companionship?
 How do you think learning this will help you achieve that goal?
 When you achieve this particular goal, how will things be different?
 How will people look at you?
 How will you view yourself?
 Are you prepared to put in the time to practice this art?
 Are you prepared to make approaches and face rejection?
 How will you deal with rejection when it comes?
 What will you do to pull yourself back up when the going gets tough?
 What kind of women are you trying to attract into your life?
 What kind of relationships are you looking for?

Start here, and answer any other questions that may come up while you’re sifting through your own mind. Once you have some answers you can move on and start learning the system.

Do not skip this exercise, because it is crucial that you understand who you are and what you want before you start. Keep that kind of focus as you continue to move forward learning the art of seduction.

If you want to learn to talk to people, then you’ll have to develop the best, most seductive identity you can. We’re going to go over that in detail later, in the chapter on generating value with your life story.

Step #1: Open

This is the beginning. The place where you spark a conversation with a woman or a group. Keep in mind that most women don’t wander around by themselves to be approached by you. So, the majority of your approaches will be grouped. This is also the step where most guys quit.

I’m going to teach you the principle behind what to do when you approach, and then provide a few techniques that you can use to start conversations. My goal for you is pretty simple:

 Learn to start a comfortable conversation with total strangers.
 Learn what makes people uncomfortable when they’re approached.
 Learn how to alleviate the fear of the approach. (Something we call “Approach Anxiety”.)

If you feel like it’s too much, don’t worry – we’re going to break it down, and there’s plenty of supporting videos you can watch by following the instruction at the end of this chapter.

After practicing this material, you’ll have the confidence and the skills to start conversations with almost anyone – most importantly, the kind of women you’ve always wanted to talk to. I’ve had students who’ve never cold approached anyone before. After a few weeks of practicing the techniques I suggest in this chapter they were able to go to a bar, point out someone they wanted to talk to and, at least, make a conversation happen, if not more.

Step #2: Attract

When you’re in conversation, your goal is to build social value. Social value is relative, and is based on how interesting you are to the person or people you’re talking to. What we’re going to work on in this step is how you convey high social value in an authentic way. The goal is to make yourself interesting to the specific group of people you are speaking with. Here’s the goal for the Attract section:

 Learn to use your knowledge and showcase-able skills to build value.
 Learn to tell stories that focus on preferences and experiences to convey your identity.
 Learn how to use active disinterest to create emotional spikes in your seductions.

There are many ways to be interesting and authentic. Just about anything you do or say can be a tool for building value; it’s all about understanding how value is built and conveyed.

This is really the meat of the system: building social value. This is one of the sections you’re going to spend the most time refining. There are quite a few pieces to it, but once you’ve practiced it, your social life will shoot into the stratosphere. Once you learn how to build value, you’ll get more dates, have more sex, meet who you want, and more.

Step #3: Connect

To romantically connect with a woman, you must tell her that you’re interested. At its core, this chapter is about timing. In attraction and seduction there is a specific time when you must tell her that you are interested. Most guys have terrible timing, and little understanding of how to compliment someone effectively. In this chapter you’ll learn:

 How to give a great compliment.
 How to get the most impact out of a compliment.
 The timing for a seductive compliment.
 When not to compliment someone.

Here is the problem with indicating your interest too early: Wanting to tell a woman that you’re interested in her feels very straightforward and honest. How many guys try to pick up women by simply telling them they have beautiful eyes? Too many.

Why do they do it? Because, it feels good to compliment her. Unfortunately, if a person receives the same compliment too much, it fades into the background, becoming a pattern that’s no longer paid attention to. Most attractive women have heard the same compliments thousands of times. So if you are the next guy that tells her that she has beautiful eyes, guess what she thinks? Yeah, another one of those… next.

By understanding the proper timing of a compliment within seduction, you’ll learn how to break that pattern, and give compliments that are truly felt and authentic.

The timing is key here. Pay attention to that. When you compliment someone it’s always a good thing, but if you learn to compliment someone with proper timing you can really make an impression, and change the dynamics of interaction.

Step #4: Seduce

This is the chapter where you’ll learn about going for the kiss or further. Where you learn how to set up the meeting or date. Where you learn how to move a person or group of people from one location to another. There’s one technique I’m going to teach you that will help you accomplish all of these goals and it’s called “seeding”. In this chapter you’ll learn:

 How to properly seed a date or meeting.
 How to “bounce” someone from one location to another.
 How to set up an intimate moment, and what to do if you misjudge the moment.

And that’s it – those four steps will take you from approaching to a second meet up. Following all this material is everything you’re going to need to know once you’ve learned these four basic steps. The goal is to make you the total package – a person that other people envy, and want to get to know.

At the end of the guide, you’ll find interviews with guys who I’ve taught personally, and you can read about their experiences:

How they got to where they are. You’ll hear from one guy who maintains a healthy relationship with the girl he loves while bringing new women into his sex life in a healthy and honest way.

How they practiced this material. You’ll hear from a former student, who’s now a coach. He went out every day, practiced, improved, and even did stand-up comedy in an effort to learn this skill.

The hurdles they had to jump to achieve success. Learn how one student went from having crippling approach anxiety to becoming a man who can approach anyone.

What kind of success they’ve all had, and how you can achieve your goals. Each student I’ve interviewed experienced more sex, a better professional life, and a steady girlfriend. Different goals – each one achieved.

It’s time to become the social superhero you’ve always wanted to be. It’s time for you to have a choice when it comes to friends and lovers. It’s time to meet the people you’ve always wanted to meet. To have someone you’d only met moments ago say, “You’re the most interesting person I’ve ever met.”

Welcome to having a choice. Welcome to your new and improved social life.

Welcome to Attract and Seduce!