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The four-step process to meeting up

You can text to meet up, but only after you’ve met up once before. Calling her for the first meet up establishes that you are interested in her and sets the tone that you are a man, which is what she wants! You need to be the man and continue to progress and lead the relationship.

1. Create Interest

This is what gets a woman curious about you. If she is curious she will want to know more about you. She will generally ask you questions of interest and engage you in texting back and forth. Do not answer all of her questions, but lead the interaction and keep her interested. Just make sure you have something interesting about you that she feels.

2. Create a feeling

Any emotion a woman feels when dealing with you is always to your advantage. Try to keep those feelings more positive, but negative ones work too. Keep in mind humor is the number one emotion women want to feel.

This is important because if you were to just jump right into “hey, let’s hang out” and you haven’t created a feeling about you then she has no reason to. Her reasoning to meet with you comes from how much she feels when she interacts with you.

Use the text messages for guidelines on how to create desirable feelings and texting conversations in the next section to see how I created those emotions.

3. Leave her hanging (dead air)

Creating value and then leaving her hanging is very powerful. She must feel what it’s like when you’re around and then miss those feelings when you’re not around. This is best done after 3‐5 texts. Don’t be texting her all day. Keep it short and fun that gets a feeling and then you’re gone.

4. Meet up

You’re set if you have created interest, a feeling about you and an empty void when you are gone. All you have to do at this point is call her up either that evening or the next day and see what she’s up too. Have a plan for something to do, like “Hey some friends of mine are getting together to watch survivor” or “Hey have you ever seen XYZ movie?” or “I got a barbecue going on come join.” If she has plans say, “That’s too bad,” and let her know how she is missing out. Don’t be surprised if a girl you have been texting earlier, texts you that night to see what you’re doing. If you’ve given her that emotional value then she will be thinking of you and she will want to see you. I’ve had many girls call or text me later to see what I was doing before I was even able to text her about meeting up.

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