Tips For Dating Apps And Dating Websites

Online dating and dating apps are everywhere. They’ve totally changed the name of the game when it comes to meeting and attracting high-quality women. You can do it in your spare time, on the train to work, or even when you’re on a boring date.

Not that I would ever suggest you do such a thing.

Still, just like talking to girls out at bars and clubs, it’s important for you to approach, flirt and make a connection in a skillful manner. Do you find that you’re not making the connections you want? Do you have a low percentage of women responding to what you have to say on online dating sites?

There’s a good chance you’re making one or more of the most common mistakes in online dating. By eliminating just one of these, you can see significant increases in your batting average when it comes to online dating. That said, while there is a bigger pool available, the rules are not different, the same principles apply and the 4-Step System works like a charm.

Let’s start with the main challenge: Almost no woman will ever meet a random stranger, yet the profile of apps and websites gives you only a very limited way to convey your true identity. So your goal is to super-communicate in a condensed form and share your qualities via pictures and text and message.

Where are the online routines?

There are countless online dating and social networking sites. And new apps become popular overnight, then lose out the next day a new e-dating trend.

This is why it’s important to remember that the principles of attraction and seduction stay the same even though the techniques might change.

Think about it this way. Each new app or site requires a modification of your techniques and routines but your identity stays the same. This is why I will give you some pointers to help you out when making contact.

 The principle of starting a conversation is to make the person or group feel comfortable. If you send them a message that makes them uncomfortable it’s likely to fail.

 When you’re contacting a woman on a dating app or website, you’re already conveying interest by contacting her. Which means that there is no way that you “just wanted to say hi”. In fact, if you’re on a dating site, it’s assumed that you’re looking for a date. So, if you contact a woman, it’s reasonable to expect that she thinks you’re looking to date her. So what do you say?

 Make an observation about something you find interesting about her hobbies, her life, etc. that is non-sexual.

 Point out a common interest and ask her opinion about a question that is related to that topic.

 Regarding flirting: When online, and just like in real life, teasing can come off as hitting on someone if it’s done without context. First, get to know her a bit before you start flirting.

And finally: When you meet up to explore why you were interested in meeting up rather than denying any interest in the first place, as a form of active disinterest.

Bad Profile Pictures

Women aren’t quite the visual creatures that men are. That said, you need to have good pictures on your profile. You don’t have to be the best-looking guy on a website or app to get the best-looking girl to go on a date with you. In fact, it’s not so much what you look like physically in your photo as much as what kind of guy you look like.

You want to look like a fun-loving, outgoing type of guy she’s going to want to spend time with. Your conversations should also be moving toward this. But just like your attraction to her starts with a photo, so does her attraction to you. Be the one that’s going to get her interested in who you are, wanting to know more and wanting to spend time with you.

Not Revealing Enough about Yourself

There are two parallel mistakes you can make when crafting your online profile. The first is being overly secretive about yourself, or not elaborating enough about who you are.

Think about it: On the one hand, if you don’t reveal anything about yourself, you can look sketchy or even fake. However, if you reveal a little bit, but not very much – or not any of the more interesting parts of your life, anyway – she’s not going to have any reason to respond. No matter how awesome the pictures of you look, women are going to want to know what sets you apart from other guys before they respond to your message.

Revealing Too Much About Yourself

And then there’s the parallel mistake – the other side of the coin. Sometimes guys reveal too much about themselves. They overshare. In particular, they come off as bitter, talk too much about exes or have a long list of things women must have or must not have.

It’s OK to have standards, but it’s good to keep things positive on a dating website. Remember that you want to put your best foot forward on dating profiles. Don’t muddy the waters with negativity or bitterness.

Building a profile means presenting the best part of yourself that you can. Here are a few things you can try:

• Put up no more than three pictures.
• One picture with an animal has been statistically proven to work well for apps and online dating sites.
• Don’t put up pictures where you’re with exes or other women you’re sleeping with.
• Put up one picture that shows you’re participating in something like travel, a hobby, or a vacation.
• Use proper grammar and punctuation.
• Looks are important for online dating – choose photos where you’re well-groomed or well-dressed if possible.
• If there’s a text portion of your profile, write something that will make it easy and fun for them to contact you.
  • “Just looking for a Netflix password.”
  • “Trying to find someone with a cool dog/cat I can hang out with.”
  • “Looking for the missing half of my broken amulet.”

Making contact, setting up the date:

You need to write a solid introduction message to grab her attention. You know that. However, how do you do that? One of the main ways is to read her profile. Nothing is going to irritate a woman more than sending her off a message without having read her profile. She put up a profile with the things she wants you to know about her before you send off an email. Let her know that you took the time to read her profile and what about it made you want to contact her.

• You have two goals in this order: establish contact and then transition to a date in the real world.
• Don’t start with something sexual; start with something non-sexual from their profile or photos.
• Recognize that people jump onto and off of dating sites fairly rapidly, so if someone doesn’t get back to you, move on – the person you contacted is likely not even on the site.
• If you know they’re on the site and they don’t get back to you, move on. They’re probably not interested, or they simply don’t check the site often.
• Set up dates for locations that are safe and comfortable – nothing where she feels like she’ll be trapped there with you.
• Don’t get upset and send negative messages if the girl doesn’t like something you said, or doesn’t want to go out with you. Learn from your mistakes and move on.

Mistake to avoid: Get to know her in person, not online

There’s such a thing as spending too much time getting to know women on a dating website. The point of a dating website isn’t getting to know her through endless e-conversation. After all, they’re called “dating sites” for a reason. What you want to do is get her to go on a date with you. So rather than spending lots of time chit-chatting about what was on television last night, spend your time trying to move her toward saying yes to going on a date with you.

Mistake to avoid: Poor Grammar

It might not seem like a big deal, but it is. You should proofread your profile. Look for simple grammar and spelling mistakes. A lot of women won’t respond to anything you have to say if you say it with poor grammar. Just spending a few minutes here can make a big difference in terms of both the number and the quality of women you have responding – and contacting you in the first place.