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I couldn't figure out how my wife knew I liked this woman

My wife and I were at a party the other day, and I was sitting and talking to one of the women for a while. Afterward, my wife said, “You really like her, don’t you?” And I was surprised because I couldn’t figure out how she knew. When I asked her, she just looked puzzled and said, “I don’t know why, but I can always tell if you like a person by the way you sit when you’re with them.” What body language signals tell her how I feel?

When you know a person for a long time, you often read their body language without knowing how you do it. This might have been what happened with your wife. The fact that you were interested in another woman probably made her reading all the more perceptive.

To dispel the mystery, you should be aware that sitting postures can give some revealing clues to likes and dislikes.

When a man likes the woman he’s talking to, he usually leans forward in a relaxed way with his back curved, assuming an attentive posture. If he dislikes the woman, he’ll tend to slouch back in his chair as if to say “I’m just not interested enough to lean forward.” Of course, the same postures apply to liking or interest between two men or two women.

Another indication of liking is curving the trunk toward the other person, opening your arms toward her, and crossing your legs in her direction. This is as indicative
of interest as folding the arms across the chest while you lean back is indicative of resistance and disagreement.

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