During Our Sex, There's No Body-Language Communication

You would be the person most likely to know what her lack of movement communicates. To most men, a motionless bed partner signals that the woman is not enjoying sex, and this signal often turns them off as well. But lack of movement can be a confusing signal, because a woman may be motionless during sex and still enjoy it.

She may get a tremendous enjoyment out of being dominated by an aggressive man.

It is also possible that she is the victim of all those years when morality insisted that decent women do not really enjoy sex, they endure it to make their husbands happy, but they don’t like it.

If this is the case, then not moving during intercourse says, in body language, “I’m not really taking part in all this. I’m doing something that’s a duty, not a pleasure.” Or “This is all happening in spite of myself!” Once these statements have been made to her unconscious mind, the woman can relax and enjoy it all. But it’s important for you to understand—if this is the case—that this is not an
intellectual decision. It happens on an emotional level.

Fortunately, few women still operate under the “sex is wrong but must be endured” doctrine.

As for you and your girlfriend, this is probably the point where body language—nonverbal communication—should be abandoned and verbal communication should take over. Talk the whole thing out!