9 Types Of Touching

Touching is crucial for turning a friendly interaction into a sexual, ‘I want to rip your clothes off’ type vibe. Touching releases oxytocin, a bonding hormone that’s also released during female orgasm, and is absolutely critical to starting a sexual
relationship.

The following are ways to initiate touch without being creepy or weird:

Greetings/Farewell

Greeting or saying, ‘goodbye’ with a handshake, hug, or kiss on the cheek. Make sure you give strong hugs, not lame one arm hugs that communicate you’re afraid to touch her.

Conversational

Using your hands as you talk, and touching her arm, shoulder or hand to emphasize a point.

Example: “And you won’t believe what happened next!” as you touch her arm for
emphasis.

Inquiring

Touch her hair, nails or something she is wearing while making a comment about it.

Example: “Wow those are some interesting nails,” as you hold her hands and examine her nails.

Leading

While leading her from one place to the next, you can hold her hand or go arm-in-arm.

Correcting

Fix something about her like her clothing, hair or posture.

Example: “Hold on let me fix your shirt. Okay there, much better.”

Playful

Fun games like thumb wrestling or slap hands.

Rewarding

Rewarding her with a hug, high-five or kiss.

Example: “Nice, high-five!”

Punishing

Playfully slapping her hand or her butt when she does something bad. Must have a high level of compliance. Example: “Bad girl, let me see your hand.” You slap her
hand. “Next one will be on your ass!”

Direct

Taking her and having your way with her. Need a high level of attraction and
compliance. Examples include going for a kiss, pulling her hair or initiating foreplay.

The following are some of my favorite ways to escalate physically (touching) and
verbally (sexually). Enjoy!

Restrictions

It’s human nature to want what you can’t have. So if you want her to want something badly, just tell her she can’t have it.

One of our team members had the following conversation with a girl:

Josiah: “I want to have sex with you.”

Girl: “I’m not having sex with you tonight”

Josiah: “I change my mind, you can’t have sex with me (restriction)”

Girl: (confused / shocked look on her face)

Girl: “Why not?!”

She then proceeded to validate herself and try to get him to say he wanted to have sex with her.

More examples:

On a date, you might say, “You are pretty cool, I’m actually starting to like you. But,
we cannot have sex tonight.”

After you kiss her, pull away after and say, “That’s all you get. No more.”

Take her to your apartment and say, “We can go inside, but you have to promise to behave yourself.”

As you are escalating, if you sense that she is going to stop the momentum you can stop it first and say, “You are turning me on so much right now we have to stop.”

If you don’t want to take her home for whatever reason say, “It would be so fun to take you home tonight and have a wild and crazy night, but I would actually rather
wait.”