Passive Value Generators That Amplify Your Attractiveness

There are four traits that you can always improve that will continue to benefit you as a master of attraction and seduction. Two of them are conversational, and we’ve already covered the process for improving them:

Key 1: Knowledge-Based Value Generators (Chapter: Never Run Out Of Things To Say)

Key 2: Wisdom-Based Value Generators (Chapter: Be Interesting and Stay Authentic: The “Identity Storytelling” Technique)

The other two traits we’ll call “passive value generators”. It’s passive because it works like passive income, or passive powers (if you’re a gamer). Passive value generators are traits that you work on over time, but you don’t have to actively use when you’re talking to someone. They just bring you value.

The two passive value generators are:

Appearance: What the people you’re talking to think about you as a result of your physical appearance, grooming, and style.

Reputation: What the people you’re talking to think they know about you. This includes your social circle, your wealth, your authority and power, and popularity, friends, family, and reputation.

Even though it seems easy, interestingly, one of the most difficult changes I’ve had to ask my students to make were ones that had to do with appearance. 

Suggesting they try on a pair of pants, shirt or jacket was met with hesitation instead of eagerness to improve. Some guys don’t feel confident enough to wear something different than what they are used to, while others don’t want to spend money on clothes.

Appearance is important. Even if you go for a grungy look, it has to have style. Women pay attention to those things. And your clothes say a lot about you than you think. Clothes offer you a way to strategically express yourself.

Work on your hygiene. Even if you are already super shaven and clean, we can all improve the ways we take care of our bodies. This means dealing with body hair, skin problems, odor, and general cleanliness.

• Brush and floss your teeth to avoid any bad breath – it’s a complete turn-off when kissing. Keep them as white as you can.
• See what you can do about fixing any problems with your skin.
• Keep your body hair groomed – I’m not just talking about beards and mustaches; I’m talking about eyebrows, chest, back, and genitals.
• Experiment with your hair. (If your job allows for that.)
• Wear deodorant, and possibly – very little – cologne.

Work on your voice. You’re going to be using it all the time if you’re learning the art of attraction and seduction. A vocal coach can not only help you fix any problems you might have with your voice but also learn how to project a deep, strong voice in a loud environment.

One of our coaches is a voice speech pathologist and works with our students on fixing many vocal problems that they didn’t even know they had. If you’ve been quiet your whole life or have felt insecure about your voice, it’s probably worth a trip to one of these pathologists to see if it’s a medical condition or something that can be worked out through therapy.

Work on developing your own style. When women meet you, they will automatically make assumptions about you based on your appearance and your style. They don’t have a choice; humans need to categorize things. If I tell you about a friend of mine who wears all black, has tattoos, and rides a motorcycle, you create a person in your head, even though you’ve never met my friend.

Here are a few general tips for improving your own style:

• Wear clothes that fit your body shape perfectly; not over-sized bags that are comfortable.
• Wear clothes that compliment your skin complexion. Different colors work for different skin types. Find out which colors make you look best.
• Wear accessories and clothes that express something about you. Hat, belt, shoes, shirts all communicate who you are.
• Wear one thing that’s interesting – a conversation piece.
• Don’t wear too many accessories. Even though it will spark conversation, it also will make you look like a Christmas tree. And which woman wants to date a tree? (This can vary based on what look you’re going for.)
• Don’t wear sandals anywhere that’s not the beach or the bathroom.
• Stand out. If you’re dressed just like all of your friends, it communicates that you are just like them. Should she date you or them? Be the exception.

If you’re not happy with your current style, here are a few questions you can ask yourself to help you improve your style:

• What are you wearing when you leave the house?
• What do these clothes say about you?
• What do other people (friends and family) think about your style?
• How would you like to dress?
• What impression would like to make on a woman you just met?
• What kind of clothes give off that impression?

Work on your health and your body. The better you can make yourself look, the more people will trust you. That sounds crazy and shallow, but it’s scientifically accurate. It’s important to work on your physical self. You’ll have more energy and become more confident. Getting physically fit is also a matter of consistency. Can you keep yourself on a healthy diet? Can you keep yourself on a regular work out regime? If you can, then you can become more fit.

Masculinity and Attraction

One question that students often have for me is, “How do I become more of an alpha male?” Which really means, “How do I act more like what I’ve been heard or taught it means to be a man?”

Here’s the thing: History is full of seducers that fell on the feminine and masculine end of the spectrum, and everywhere in-between. As you’ve read in previous chapters – there is no single identity that is seductive to everyone.

To master the art of attraction and seduction, you must find the correct balance of masculinity and femininity that is required to seduce the person or people you are interacting with.

For example, if you’re a naturally big masculine looking guy, include some identity stories that add some femininity to your identity. If you’re a feminine looking guy, play it up, add some flare to your wardrobe. This will keep you under the radar. Then through words and actions show the people a more masculine side. There is an infinite number of ways to play up masculinity and femininity, experiment and see what works for your seductions.

Is There One True Key to Becoming the Most Interesting Guy in the World?

The answer is adaptation. Explore yourself and adapt to your world. Great seducers never stop learning; they push themselves to explore more and more of the world. Each adventure they have leads to another. It leads you to a deeper understanding of their reality. They know that the more people they meet and the deeper they look within themselves the greater the seducers they’ll become.

Use your adventures to improve yourself. Spend time expanding your knowledge of all things you come into contact with, and reflecting upon how those things affect and change you. You’ll find the more you know about yourself, the more you’ll know about the world, and vice versa. If you stick to this idea of pushing yourself to explore, you will undoubtedly be the most interesting guy in any room.