Creating a Seductive Atmosphere

Eventually, you’re going to be bringing women back to your home. That means you should spend some time thinking about how to set up your place and make it a seductive and attractive atmosphere. Your home, like your clothing, is an extension of your identity. That means your home says something about you to anyone who enters it.

When you are thinking about setting up a seductive atmosphere for your home start by paying attention to all five senses: What does it look like? What does it smell like? What kinds of food and drink do you have to share? How does it feel to be in your home? What kinds of music or sounds do you share in your home?

Here is a checklist of details for you:

• What exactly do you have in your house and what does it say about you? The key is to have it stuffed with conversation starters. Pictures, objects or art that makes her curious enough to ask you about it. That way it will give you an opportunity to shine. Don’t put anything on your walls or on a visible shelf that you can’t talk about with an identity story. Pieces of art, books, posters, photographs and everything else should have a story that reveals something about you.
• Lighting is more important than the size of the room. Light creates an atmosphere. Is your lighting sexy or oppressive? If you have bright florescent light, it’s not sexy. You can install spotlights that highlight your conversation-starter items, dimmer switches to control the brightness or simply use lamps to give the atmosphere a more comfortable look.
• Have you done anything interesting with the paint or wallpaper? Using warm accent colors can give a room a very cozy feeling. If not, maybe consider it.
• Is your place clean? If not, you’ll need to put some time in cleaning it or hire someone to come by.
• Do you have anything interesting to eat or drink at your house? Everyone loves good food. A simple thing is to cut up a fruit plate with honey – something delicious and easy to share with a potential lover. I also suggest rare types of drinks that you can offer like mead, a special cocktail, a rare wine, or something else you wouldn’t find in the average guy’s house.
• What does your house smell like? There are a lot of different scents out there, so which one do you enjoy most? Choose one. I prefer incense, but you can use a variety of air fresheners to give your place a great smell.
• Does your house look comfortable? This question refers to the fabrics and textures of the furniture in your home. Look at your place and ask, “Would I want to lay down and cuddle up on my couch? My bed? My floor?” If not, then what can I do to make my place feel more comfortable?
• What do you have that will make getting physical easier? Do you have condoms and lubrication by your bed? Massage oil? These things can all boost your sexual experience.
• What kind of music do you like to put on? I suggest using Spotify to make a playlist of sexy and exciting songs.

A few years ago, Neil Strauss took me to a party at his friend’s apartment. The event was fantastic, and all the women were having a great time. Most of the fun came down to how entertaining it was to be at his place. His secret was setting up each room in his apartment to have a completely different feel. One room had co-operative video games people could play. Another room had a dancer pole with couches on either side. Another was filled with fantastic art, and each piece of art he had a crazy story for. The rooms also had different lighting, which brought a different feel to each of them. His kitchen had all sorts of unique and exciting types of liquor to drink; stuff most people haven’t even heard of. 

Guests at the party spent hours just wandering around checking out his amazing home, begging to come back for another party. He was the most interesting guy in every room because every room had a little bit of his personality in it.

When women first started coming back to my place after a date, I always had trouble getting close to them unless we’d already been physical. I came up with this little technique I call “The Smooth Move” to help me get closer to women without being overly obvious.

• Start with some cut up fruits and veggies on a plate. (Have this ready before you even go on the date.)
• When she comes over, let her find a place to sit.
• Once she finds a place to sit, you’re going to find somewhere else in the room to relax. Somewhere near her, but preferably not on the couch with her.
• Let her get comfortable on your couch while you talk for a while, or throw on a movie.
• A few minutes into a conversation or the movie say, “I’m going to grab us some snacks.”
• Grab the prepared plate of food.
• When you come in the room with the plate, sit next to her, so you can share the food – but also, so you can sit next to her!

It’s a smooth transition that allows you to get physically close to her without being obvious. Remember, this is only really necessary if you haven’t been physical with her already. That said, if you’ve made it back to your place, and you need a way to get close to her, this is a great move.

Where to get it

You might want to know where to get some interesting items for your home. Here are a few suggestions:

• Etsy.com: Etsy is a place where artists can sell whatever it is they make. Almost everything you find on his site will be unique. It’s easily my favorite site for finding things no one else will ever have.
• EBay.com: eBay is great for finding collectors’ items – signed posters, old record players and records, arcade machines, pretty much anything from the past that’s hard to find, you can get on eBay.
• Amazon.com: I use Amazon for anything ordinary that I need. I buy nice appliances and kitchenware from Amazon.
• Overstock.com: You’d be surprised how many single guys go through life with one dirty set of bed sheets and old towels with bleach spots. Don’t be one of these guys. You can get new towels and bed sheets at overstock at really affordable prices.
• Local Nurseries: I love having plants in my home. Having life around always feels good. Also, women have commented on my ability to keep them alive and healthy for years. The best place to get plants is the local nurseries. Pick out some plants that you like and ask the professionals that work there how to keep them alive and healthy looking in your home.

Remember, your house says a lot about who you are, so take care of it, and make it something exciting for people to visit.