How I Got My Girlfriend

Tryst.dating: All right. We love to celebrate successes. Stringer has come a long way in a relatively short period of time, and has had some major breakthroughs in the past year. Can you tell us a little bit about who you are and where you came from, and set us up with a little bit of your back story?

Stringer: I never really had trouble getting into relationships. I was always in the wrong relationships. What I found myself doing time and time again, was committing a lot of time to relationships that just weren’t good for me, and ultimately were just a complete waste of time and could have even damaged my life in a lot of ways. What learning the art of attraction and seduction at Tryst.dating allowed me to do, was develop skill sets. Having the ability to select the type of woman that I wanted to be with romantically and also who I wanted to be with as far as friends go. It taught me skills to completely rebuild my social circle. At this time, I have a very rich life, full of friends and a great girlfriend, who I’ve been with for a year. We’ve recently moved in together, and we’re very much in love.

Tryst.dating: That’s great, fantastic. We love to see our students experiencing such amazing things such as that. Can you tell me a little about any specific attraction and seduction techniques or advice that helped you build that success?

Stringer: I would have to say that as far as techniques go, there was a technique that Byron taught me called Identity Storytelling. What this did, was it allowed me to begin to start telling stories about my own life in a very passionate way. It allowed me to convey my identity quickly and allowed me to connect with people, on a social, emotional, or personal connection very quickly. That was something I hadn’t been doing. I also hadn’t really been telling stories at all. One of the great things about learning how to do Identity Storytelling, was that it actually taught me how to tell a good story. Now I find myself telling stories a lot more and entertaining people. Whereas, I never would have done that before.

Tryst.dating: When you say entertaining people, what do you mean by that?

Stringer: I mean being able to hold the attention of an entire group of people, say at a dinner party for an extended period of time, with just a story. I may have been at a social venue before, or maybe out to dinner with friends, but I never would have been the star of any conversation for more than just a comment. I might say a sentence here and there. I would never contribute more than a sentence at a time.

Tryst.dating: What does it feel like you, to be able to contribute confidently? What’s the biggest difference in how you feel, knowing that you can have confident contributions?

Stringer: I feel like people are actually having an opportunity to get to know me, whereas before I was limiting myself by not contributing confidently, and basically hiding all the things that are great about me.

Tryst.dating: Do you think that once you’ve been able to share those things, the rewards have been really tangible for you? Can you name specific ways that your life has changed?

Stringer: Definitely. Ever since I started doing the Identity Story telling routine and began developing my ability as a storyteller, I’ve had greater friendships, greater relationships, and I’ve also noticed that it’s improved my management ability and my compliance at work.

Tryst.dating: Do you think that there were any other big Ah-Ha moments or epiphanies for you, other than Identity Storytelling? Things that you learned that really shifted the way you were thinking?

Stringer: One of the things that I learned was the idea of being indirect with the approach, and the extent to which you can take that. One of the first things that I’ve learned from The Sneak, is that you can open a set by not even actually opening that set. You can wear something interesting, or you can be loud enough when you’re talking about something interesting that other people who are around you can either hear you or see you, and be interested in what you’re saying or wearing and wanting to just talk to you as a result of that. Which is pretty much the most indirect you can be in opening a set.

Tryst.dating: Right, absolutely. Did you experience success of getting to meet some interesting people, that you don’t think that you would have been able to meet if you didn’t know how to open indirectly?

Stringer: Yeah. There have been numerous times when girls, guys, people, anyone really at the bar, who have heard me talking to a bartender about a specific drink, got intrigued by what I was talking about and joined the conversation. They would ask what I ordered and often didn’t expect me to have such an extensive knowledge of different drinks of the alcoholic persuasion. I was able to start a conversation about that. Then, I’m getting some more interesting identity story telling.

Tryst.dating: It sounds like you feel that Identity Storytelling was a major shift in your life and really allowed you to express things and be a little bit more interesting. When you have people seeing that they’re interested in you, do you find that to be something that you were able to spot previously in your life, where people were giving you signs that they were interested or is that something that you’ve gotten better at spotting since you’ve been practicing?

Stringer: I think, it’s something that I’ve gotten better at spotting since I’ve been practicing. I also feel like I’ve been getting a lot more interest. I’ve been receiving a lot more interest since I started telling identity stories. I think that identity stories, also like I said, taught me how to just tell any story. The structure of identity stories, especially the Identity Storytelling exercise that Byron created and teaches at the boot camp, really teaches somebody how to tell a story, because there’s a beginning, a middle, and a definite end to each story.

Tryst.dating: If there was a time where you were not sure what to do while talking to a woman or a group of people, how do you proceed from there, if you just feel like you’ve lost track of things?

Stringer: If I wanted to gauge the interest in a set?

Tryst.dating: Sure.

Stringer: If I really wanted to see how interested people were in me, I would disappear for a little bit. I might walk away. I might excuse myself and go to the bathroom and come back later and see if I was missed or not, see how things have changed when I’ve returned. If people don’t really seem like they care too much, that means I need to be more interesting. If people are really excited that I’m back, it would probably seem like I’d be in pretty good shape.

Tryst.dating: I like that. Do you think that the average person would be able to use this stuff?

Stringer: I think that the average person could use this stuff and achieve success.

Tryst.dating: Where would you recommend somebody to start, if they were just starting out?

Stringer: I would recommend that they start by reading something that either Byron or the other Tryst.dating coaches have written. I would recommend getting on the Tryst.dating Academy and checking out the forums, to learn from that. I also would recommend that people take the Ultimate Training Program in order to get a really strong foundation. They’ll get the introduction from Neil Strauss, because Neil’s the guy who wrote The Game. A lot of people know that. If you don’t know that then I would say start there; read The Game. Most people know that now, so I would say go ahead. If you haven’t read The Game, read it. Secondly, take the Ultimate Training Program, where you’re going to get all sorts of great advice from the Tryst.dating Coaches and Neil Strauss.

Tryst.dating: Great. For the last question, I want to know if you can share a story with us, about a time you used these techniques and you saw something actually shift from your usage of one of these techniques, like a tale from the field.

Stringer: Sure. Gosh. Let me nail them down, my friend. Let me tell you the story about how I met my current girlfriend. There was a moment when I first met her, when I realized that the man that I was before had no chance at all at attracting her, because she was full of shit tests. She was very flirty when I met her. Which to me before, I would have misinterpreted her flirting as being offended, not interested in me. She was just giving me a hard time, like girls will do when they’re flirting.

Tryst.dating, in general, equipped me with the idea that I could just walk by, I could banter back and forth, and reply with interesting comments maybe about something that I was wearing. For instance, when I first met my girlfriend, she commented that the lion lapel on my jacket was interesting, and said that it reminded her of the Wizard of Oz. Some guys might be offended by that or might react negatively to that comment, but it actually lead right into an identity story for me that was

really powerful, and really changed her mind. For her, just saying something off-handed in a joking way, I was really able to connect with her. I think that that moment right there, where I was able to respond to her lead banter with something that actually touched her, and allowed her to emotionally connect with me. That was a moment when I really saw the game changing of who I was and my idea of what was really possible in the world.

Tryst.dating: Awesome. Thank you so much for sharing that with us. I do think that having met your girlfriend, I can say she’s an incredible human being. Having met you, I can say you’re an incredible human being. I am excited that you were able to meet her and connect in the way that you have, because you two deserve each other. I just want to give you an amazing congratulations on all your success. Very nice stuff man.

Stringer: Thanks Jay. Thank you sir.

Tryst.dating: You rock.